mylongjourney’s Weblog

I wonder why many people should fight each other to make her/him self respected by their enemy. I am considering a way which I can manage to avoid fight and discuss instead of rudeness.

Everyone has his/her problem, and everybody knows that. It’s a matter of nature, so I can understand that the ways to react in one problem is different from one person to another.

I said this compared to a discussion happen in my blog lately, to be more specific; my previous post. I adore both opinion and I would like to say I won’t defend anyone. It’s in my principal that I respect someone’s choices to react for a matter. I won’t negotiate them to finish the debate, and I won’t provoke them. It’s their freedom to choose how to react on each other opinion, just like my freedom to argue any comment offended on me. It’s a free world right. If you don’t believe that we are a free man, the look at the sun, the air, and smell the favor. Close your eyes and see how beautiful you are in this sacred world.

See, as I already told that everyone has their own problem and the counter reaction from the can be some suggestion from them to counter react their next problem, and it will be their vision, and their principal about the thing which going on around them.

I always use my own method to solve my problem and knowing what is right for me without  placing anyone in a difficult circumstances. It’s the way I used to handle my company’s client also. You know, the client is the boss, they will always, and they have right to control the production/fabrication of their own goods. That’s why they always complaining. I look this matter not from my side being offended, but from their side… why I being offended? Did I do something wrong according to the procedure and standard? Did I say something terrible to him? That is I called a self introspection, this is not for him, not for my company, but for my own. I can manage my feel and manage my anger, both are like a time bomb, difficult to handle and sometimes can blow in the matter of anytime.

It’s a simple thing to think and said, but very difficult to do, that’s why I always remind myself to keep calm. For example in a free debate meeting with no ending and always arguing, I prefer go outside and take a cigarette, and then think about good thing. Then I can calm myself. After that I can go back to the meeting and do I want to do with calm heart and fresh minded.

I am young and energic but have little experience compared to my other colleagues, but that wont make me down. Hey…!! I have something you don’t have, I have my freedom to choose my own way to react, you can follow your procedures, I have mine. As long as it match with the company culture and not making the project become slow down, it doesn’t matter. I am a free man with responsibility…Such idealistic maybe you all think, but sometimes I need to be one, because of one reasons: “I am the leader of myself, and with doing my thing in my own way I can perfectly responsible for any reaction I’ve been doing to solve the problem”